Love or Lust

I love basketball.   I’m in love with basketball .  As a matter of fact, I’ve been to bed with my ball and proud to say it. We can’t seem to get enough of each other! I can’t even remember a time when we weren’t  in a relationship.  Our affair has been a match made in heaven.  Sure,  we’ve had our ups and downs over the years, but… we’re still together. Maybe it’s not like it once was, but in some ways its better.

What about you?

Are you in love with basketball, or are you just the average player (AP)? There is a difference.  If you love it, you are willing to make sacrifices (big or little) to make the relationship flourish.  For the AP, it’s  just something they do on the side. They're serious, but they don’t want to get too serious-whether they’ll admit it or not.  Many times they’re confused. They say they’re in love. They think they’re in love; but really...it’s only lust.

Don’t get me wrong, they love  playing (the game), but their level of commitment to the other parts of the relationship leaves a bit to be desired. They seem to be  in it for the benefits. When things get a little rocky, they’ll tell you they want things to be better, but typically have  too many  “other” things going on to make it right.  People usually do what they do.

I ask players all the time,  “why are you in this  relationship… there are plenty of other "fish" in the sea?” Follow your heart. But understand, no matter which way you  go,  there’s going to be hard work involved-if you plan on being successful at it.  Be patient too! You can’t just stick your pole in and expect every thing to work out. Success comes before work only in the dictionary.  

Too many players think  just having a pole or any other physical tool is enough… please!   Too much lying down, not enough standing up and being accountable. In the end, it really comes down to what you are  truly passionate about.